The Original Design: Good Leaders and Good Leadership

Good leadership starts in the home. If you can honor your father and mother, learn from them, and lead your children, society will change. We need good leaders.

Congratulations. Stepping up as a leader by setting the example will have a profound effect on your overall health of the well-being of your family and community. When we set a strong example and lead with love, order, and wisdom, we can be sure of the fact that our children will want to follow us because they respect us. We all have to earn respect.

Taking care of yourself and your appearance will also ignite the “king-and-queen” relationship you have with your beautiful wife. Intimacy is the glue that binds you. If you want to create that same desire in your spouse as the day you met, then it’s time to do things God’s way, with good intent.

God made us in His image to share His love here on earth. If He blessed you with a wife, then He gave you a big responsibility. Represent His love to her by listening to His Voice.

As it is written, “Then God made man in His own image, man and female He made them.” – Genesis 1:27

Love is a sacrifice that can be as painful as choosing not to eat so your children can. Children love because they were first loved. Well, in a perfect world, that’s what we’d hope to see. But if we look at the love of this world, then we see a different picture. We see broken homes where kids grow up used and abused, some even denied of basic needs like food.

If you never knew love like a child should, then you will find it hard to fully grasp God. How can a child relate to God the Father if they never had a loving father to begin with?

If you’re mother never held you as a baby, that rejection would have changed something deep within your soul. This trauma can lead to trust issues later in life, and a lack of commitment in relationships and coaching programs like this one your following now.

To an extent, we are all broken by the deep-rooted wounds of this selfish world and that is why we need to show grace and forgive soon, for “they do not know what they do”. Blinded by desire they act like beasts, taking in more than they care to give.

This is why we need to lead by example and trust God to shape the next generation through us. Save yourself, then save the world.


The world is a chaotic place, and if we want to win this ‘Unseen Race‘, then we need to set the pace. We need to shine His Lights so bright that we spiritually ignite.

We need to stand together as a family for what’s right. Evil is when good men don’t act because they are afraid. We are afraid of the Unknown because we don’t want to feel pain.

We will try to avoid disappointment and failure at all costs if we can. Change is always painful, and the sooner we embrace it the sooner we can get back up and grow stronger as we learn. But only if we get up and try again – That is tenacity.

In reality, we really only have 1 of 2 options, we can either show up and fight for what’s right, even if it hurts, or we can run and take flight.

Those who fight, the brave ones who challenge their fears, they are the ones who rise and ignite. Those who run in fear slowly fade away as they try to stay the same.


We are born into this world with X amount of seconds, minutes, hours, day, weeks, months, and years. When we fear death, we fear lack, and we fear the Unknown. We fear things we cannot control. We fear things that aren’t real.

The funny thing about fear is, those who live in fear always act in a way that would bring their worst fears upon themselves as they focus on all the wrong things. Your mind is the most powerful tool you own. Use it with Wisdom.

Where can wisdom be found? Well, according to the Holy Bible, wisdom stands on the streets calling out to all who are willing to listen to Her. The human conscience will guide you to make better choices if you would only listen to Her.

We all know what’s good for us, and what’s not. It’s the hardest decisions that leads to blessings. As it is written, “God is not mocked, a man shall reap whatever he sows.” Whether that’s destruction or life, you are free to choose.

Love is the only emotion that will give you the courage to overcome your fears. Love will give you the Dunamis you need to overcome the resistance you will face when you walk this journey towards a healthier stronger you.

We are naturally slaves to Love. God is Love, and those who abide in Love will abide in Him, and He abides in them, and they will be One. We can only ever experience Love because God is Love, and without Him, there will always be a void deep within us. Knowing God’s heart is what sets us free.


The truth is, nothing in life stays the same except the character of God. Once we come to understand this, only then can we let go and trust God to be there for us even in death.

We all have to die eventually, and that’s the beauty of family, it gives us eternal life if we continue to pro-create with God’s blessing on our lives; just look at the Israelites. Once you grasp what family represents you will live eternally through your children’s children, and you will be blessed like Abraham.


God said it is not good for man to be alone, so He made a helper for Adam, and Adam called her Eve, for she was the mother of all mankind.

I like to believe that if I was the only man on earth, I would never know what Love was, or what it felt like. Just think about that for a second. I would never have been given the desire for family. I would have been like the beasts of the field.

Family goes beyond mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, and grandparents, family stretches to your community and friends. You sacrifice for the ones you care for. You sacrifice for the ones you respect and honor in truth and purity of heart.

Once you know God, by knowing Jesus Christ: His mind, His heart, and His character, only then can you fully grasp what God came to show us about ourselves and the world around us. His image of our reality.

We are His offspring, His children, and we are called to act like it, walk like it, and talk like it. We are here to make an end to the evil in this world by creating order through our authority to bring chaos under control by using opportunities.

As it is written, “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” – John 15:13

If we look to the past we can see that the brave ones who ran headstrong into really dangerous circumstances as an act of sacrifice for country and flag brought about the greatest revolutions in history. Was God with them even in war?

The greatest act of sacrifice demonstrated by Jesus Christ perpetuated His Name throughout eternity to make God the Father known to you and me. What an amazing thought is that? Think about it for a second or two.

This is what the Holy Bible says about love: “Beloved, let us love one another, because love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and they know God. Whoever does not love cannot know God, because God is love.

This is how God’s love was revealed among us: God sent His one and only Son into the world, so that we might live through Him. And love consists in this: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as the atoning sacrificed for our mistakes (sin). Beloved, if God so loved us, then we ought to love one another in the same manner.

No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God remains in us, and His love is perfected in and through us. By this we know that He remains in us: He has given us His Spirit. We have seen and testify that the Father has sent His Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.

We have come to know and believe the love that God has for us. God is love; whoever abides in love abides in God, and God in him. In this way, love has been perfected among us, so that we may have confidence on the day of judgment; in this world we are like Him. If anyone says, “I love God,” but hates his brother, he is a liar.

For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And we have this commandment from Him: Whoever loves God must love his brother as well.”

We are here on earth to represent the love of God to others. What is the love of God?

It’s not lust or desire. It is a giving heart that shows mercy, kindness, patience, joy, peace, self-control, faithfulness, and love with the gentle and forgiving character of Jesus Christ.


We will never truly know how much God loves us until we have children of our own. That’s the main reason we need to look after ourselves.

The generations that are to follow will be an extension of who we are and if we create order in our homes and we lead like kings and queens we will be the change we would like to see. We all set the pace for the human race.

God loves us, and His agape love gives us the free will to choose. It does not include control or manipulation. Neither fear nor condemnation. God wants you to pursue Him in the same way you would pursue your partner, with a burning desire.

There needs to be a deep-rooted need in you that goes beyond the natural urges of the flesh. Things like money, sex, and other highs can take your focus away from God’s love and cause a lot of pain and destruction in your children’s lives. Pray and ask that He would ignite your heart to seek His face today.

The wise thing to do is to listen to His voice, because deep down you know what’s good for you and your family. The Sacrifice of love always brings victory. It’s karma and it works. Remember, Galatians 6:7 – “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, a man will reap whatever he sows.”

Coach Jan

P.S. Be the Blessing.